Originally published on metropolis.co.jp on December 2010

Tough Mothers

Regarding “Aki: Queen of the Gyaru Mama” (Q&A, Dec 3): What does Metropolis think it’s accomplishing by publicizing the concept of—never mind promoting the lifestyle of—gyaru mama?!? The notorious gyaru tribe made a name for itself in the ’90s by taking material culture to new heights (lows), and shunning all notions of elegance, restraint and intellectual curiosity. And now they’re breeding? I’m reminded of the words of the Principal in Billy Madison: “May God have mercy on your soul.”—sockpuppet

Where the heck is “Guy Papa”??? Someone should put an end to the osoro-koode [matching outfits] immediately. God help her daughter, or she may end up just as worthless and superficial.—MrDarryl*

This article is already slightly disturbing enough, but this:

Being a mother isn’t an occupation, but… [laughs]

…It’s not? So, is it a hobby then? Being a parent is an occupation, it takes work and dedication like every other job. I know what she probably meant, but still, that needs to be clear to young people. It’s telling that a lot of girls want to grow up and have this fabulous lifestyle and a baby, as if it’s sooo easy. The reality is not that simple.

She’s correct, you have the right to wear whatever the heck you want while raising your kid, but in general it seems gyaru represent two things: materialism and themselves, so it makes sense why a lot of “normal” mothers probably looked down on her.

Anyway, I wish the best for her daughter. It sounds like Aki-san does seem to care, and I think the association is a nice idea, so good for her on that.
—kokorocloud*

Interesting stereotyping going on here. If the photo showed a frumpy woman in a wool pantsuit, I wonder if all these assumptions would be being made. As it is, she seems not only quite comfortable with the way she looks, but far less of an airhead than some of the commenters.

She’s doing something to better herself, the life she can offer her child, and also helping others in similar situations, that of being a young single mother in Japan or a wife who doesn’t want to conform to their peer perceived fate. I say more power to her.—MET in Tokyo*

I personally am all for mothers having style! Most of the mothers where I live dress frumpily and are completely unappealing, no matter how young they are. Why not just take 15 minutes and choose a trendy outfit and put on some makeup? I guess that it’s not a priority now that they’ve got someone who “can’t leave” and they don’t have to care about their appearance anymore. I’m with what Oprah said: look good for yourself! Dress nice for yourself! You’ll be amazed at how much of a difference it makes in your mood.
—HermioneGranger*

*via Japan Today

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